Today, make a list of everything you want to do. I mean really go for it and list everything you want to do but next to each thing write why you want to do it. “Because it’s freakin’ fun, Guth. Mind your own goddamned business,” is a perfectly valid reason, but include the why to check your motivation for ego or socialized “shoulds.” Because how many people do you know who have made themselves totally miserable saying yes to things that the world told them they should want? Tons, right? Same here. And, how many people do you know who do all kinds of silly crap and get themselves all stressed out over things their egos make them think they want? So many. Convention, tradition, socialization, gender roles, economic pressure— all of it can layer on and make us do things totally out of alignment with what we really want and who we really are. So make that list and scrutinize your motivation for each item on it. After that, free write about what stands out to you about the list. (And, then maybe go figure out how to knock a few things off the list.)
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