Shooting yourself in the foot
Be ruthless about this part
I have a theory that most people think they know what they want, but have a really, really narrow idea of how it’s supposed to happen, so when actually presented with the situation/win/thing they so badly want, they either outright decline or find a way to self-sabotage. It drives me nuts.
Today, think about situations where you “almost” got what you wanted but, in the end, did not. There are plenty of reasons why it might have blown up and fallen apart (remind me to tell you sometime about a deal that fell apart a couple of months ago because the actor was on a bender and was too high to come to the meeting), but take some time today to reflect in your writing about ways in which you might have contributed to its demise because it might not have seemed “perfect.”
To be clear, if a situation feels “off” or half-assed, you should shut it down. But, I can’t tell you how many times people come to me because they have an idea for a film or a book or an op-ed (all stuff I on which work with people as either clients or collaborators) and as soon as they realize there’s work involved or that I’m not going to do the work for them or that the behind-the-scenes process doesn’t look as glamorous as they dreamed it would… they find a way to sabotage it. And, I have a lot to say about it. I bet you do, too, in your own way. Let’s go.
